I read this post the other day and it kind of set me off.
First, I don’t think that her 9 points really give an accurate picture of what sharing is all about. When was the last time you walked into Starbucks and asked some random stranger to borrow their laptop? HOWEVER, I’m sure there’s been a time or two when a close friend or significant other has needed to borrow your electronic device. You’ve probably accommodated them, even if it meant that you asked them to give you an hour to finish up what you were doing first.
Second, sharing is about manners and socialization. I’m not saying every kid has to hand over whatever they’re playing with just because another kid wants it—it’s not that black and white. There’s a middle ground there, though. There are plenty of reasonable opportunities for sharing.
For us, Easter was a prime example. My aunt hosted a little egg hunt at her house for Charlotte and my cousin’s son (her grandson) who is 2 ½. My cousin’s son wouldn’t share ANYTHING with Charlotte. To the point where if she had something, he immediately walked over and just took it from her. AND THE ADULTS LAUGHED. Like it was cute! “Oh look, he doesn’t want to share!” It left me and Catch sitting there with giant question marks over our heads.
When my aunt brought out baskets for the egg hunt, she handed her grandson one that was a little cowboy hat with a handle and it said, “cowboy” on it. Charlotte was given a sand pail that was Frozen themed and had a little shovel attached. My cousin’s son tossed the cowboy basket on the ground and took Charlotte’s pail from her. My aunt laughed at how cute he was.
Later, Charlotte was chewing on the end of the shovel and he ripped it straight from her mouth. It had a loop on the end of it that her teeth were through and he could have really hurt her teeth, but again, everyone laughed as if it was funny.
Then, during the egg hunt, we picked up a couple of eggs (there were TONS and only the two kids) and sat her down with them so she could play with them. She would be chewing on an egg and my cousin’s son would just come over and rip it out of her hands. No one said a word to him. HOW IS THAT OK?
Honestly, my family is lucky that Catch and I were able to contain our inner mama bears all day.
Charlotte is going to learn how to share. She is also going to learn that she can’t always have what someone else has. It’s called manners. All children should have them.