On Saturday morning, I sat on a couch as not one, but TWO lactation consultants stood over me staring at my right nipple.
You know what you don’t expect to hear from a couple of women who look at nipples all day every day?
“I have never seen that before.”
What are they referring to?
Teeth marks.
I have teeth marks on my nipple.
Let that sink in for a minute.
I’ve been having quite a bit of pain when nursing ever since Charlotte got her two bottom teeth. After ALL of my breastfeeding research indicated that there is NO WAY I could possibly be feeling those teeth while nursing, I chalked it up to the thrush I’ve been battling. (It goes away for a week and then comes back. It’s been fun.) THEN, I saw it—a very clear red mark exactly where those bottom teeth fall when she’s nursing and in the exact shape and size of those little razors.
But no. It’s not possible. Kelly Mom, La Leche League, and pretty much every other breastfeeding resource on the internet says that I will not feel baby’s teeth when she’s nursing unless she actually bites me. Particularly not the bottom teeth, because her tongue covers them.
So when I mentioned it to the lactation consultants when we were there on Saturday, they both immediately shot me down. No way, they said. Not possible. Gotta be something else. Can we see?
But as they stood over me and stared at my poor nipple, they both exclaimed, “That’s a tooth mark! I have never seen that before!”
Isn’t that every woman’s fear when it comes to medical professionals examining various lady parts? That someone will tell us we’re weird and they’ve never seen that before? And we all talk ourselves out of our worries by telling ourselves that these people have seen EVERYTHING, and they have probably seen our brand of crazy a thousand times and will immediately have all of the answers.
Well allow me to be the ones to burst your bubble, because I have tooth marks rubbed into my nipple. For real. And the best advice they could give me after ruling out a tongue tie and various other issues is to try a different nursing position and to maybe give it a go with the nipple shield for a while.
Now, if you’ll just humor me for a moment, please imagine me standing on top of the tallest building in Los Angeles with a megaphone screaming WHY ME?! WHY DOES THIS SHIT ALWAYS HAPPEN TO ME?!
30-ish years from now, I will be sitting with my daughter as she holds her first baby explaining how when I was a breastfeeding mom, I had to walk miles uphill in the snow BOTH WAYS. And you know what? I’m not even exaggerating.
Breastfeeding: 999999999 Molly: 0
Please stopppp!! I died laughing, sympathetically laughing that is:) Dear Charlotte, please stop nibbling your moms nips with those freshly cut teethies. Owwwwwwieeeeeee
Laughing at myself is the only way I can survive these days!
No, you’re not exaggerating you bf troubles! I would have thrown in the towel looong ago if I were in your position, that’s for sure!
I honestly had no idea that I was quite this stubborn.
Lol!!! I had no idea that was possible!
You learn something new every day!
Huh. Yeah. I have teeth marks on top but not on bottom. I hope they can help you resolve it!
Boo for teeth marks! I wonder if they make mouth guards for babies…
Oh my GOD, Molly. Seriously, this sucks. Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.
Right? Someday I’m going to write a book about breastfeeding that will make every other breastfeeding mom feel like their problems are totally manageable because they aren’t me. I will be inspirational. La Leche League will use me as their “how not to breastfeed” spokesperson.
Oh christ, are you kidding? I’m so sorry! You do not deserve another weird thing getting in the way of nursing. I’m so sorry. I hope an easy and straightforward solution is in sight!
I hope so too!
Kudos to you for sticking it out! Most (me included) would have given up long before now. You are a super mom!
Nooooooooooo! What? NOOOOOOOOOO!
Whaaaa?! This is getting ridiculous. Karma owes you a big one.
No kidding.
Gus had a shallow and with more teeth came more pain- but no teeth marks. Holy shit, friend.
Yikes.
This is CRAZY!! I’m so sorry. You have really fought against all odds and I think you’re amazing. Charlotte, why?! Good thing she’s cute.
OMG I hurt just reading this.
um, OUCH. And yes, you totally get to trot that out to her later in life!
Also, fistbump of solidarity for the “well, that’s new…” moment when having lady parts examined.
I had the bonus of a med student who literally could not wait to get a gander of my cervix after the doc said that.